We are honored to present a real-life case study with one of our clients. We welcome Mette to our online community and we will help her find her way back to life and health. You will be able to follow Mette with weekly updates in form of her own work in blog updates and also video materials where we, Sara & Simba, will show you our behind-the-scenes discussions about how we work and Mette’s healing process. Say hello to Mette and let her journey begin!
Hi, I’m Mette and you will follow me for a while, probably on a life-changing journey and hopefully a journey to a better place, a better life and I wish this journey a happy ending.
Who am I then, well I’m starting to approach 50 and live in the central part of Copenhagen, living with my 14-year-old daughter. I separated from my daughter’s dad when she was 2 years old and since then I have managed by myself and my relationships have been with varying degrees of success, a real roller coaster. I have worked hard and have had responsibility in my profession, it has, in turn, meant that I always supported myself and did not have to be dependent on anyone else. That is what is important to me as I do not trust that relationships are lasting and do not want to end up in a position of dependence.
This need for control and action means that today I live somewhat limited and when I became really ill and no longer had the opportunity to work, this started three years ago. But before that, my life has not been a dance on roses, but I have constantly been faced with adversity in all its various forms, death, disease, and traumas that have completely turned my whole life upside down. To survive, I have put on a facade, bitten together and self-medicated just to get through the day. A life that’s no longer sustainable but I held on to it for about 25 years. My body and my soul are so tired, so exhausted from pain but at the same time, there is an inner glow that wants so much more.
When my body completely collapsed three years ago, more than half of my life has gone with chronic pain in the form of constant migraine attacks and has developed several autoimmune diseases that soon begin to become more than there are fingers on the hands. My life during these years has been in the bed for huge parts of the days, trying to take care of the household and my daughter but not much more than that.
An already badly shapen body has during this time gone down even more. During these years, I have had close contact with healthcare and have a number of specialist doctors I meet regularly. Their prognosis can be briefly summarized as “You must learn to live with this, there is no cure” and I receive strong medication for the pain and otherwise be medicated with what I can to bring all the values in the body to a tolerable level. It feels like they are putting a band-aid on an amputated arm and the blood is squirting in all directions but there is nothing more to do. At times, I have been too weak to do anything other than just trust their words, and it should be added that these are very competent and known doctors that I have been privileged to have. At the same time, it has gnawed at me, there must be another way. Have periodically half-heartedly tried to find that path but never had the support and strength enough to manage it myself.
I want help to get physically healthy, avoid pain and build up my body, be able to live life dignified and full, never again have a facade, and instead be present mentally. To get tools and support to find my inner peace and change direction on the lifeboat so that I can enjoy all the years I hopefully have left. There is so much within me that is nice and I have to start appreciating myself and my body, start living in symbiosis with it and not despise it, I have to be able to love myself.
In concrete terms, this means that I need to build up everything from the muscles and my physical health to cleanse my body, give it what it needs to be pain-free because the pain paralyzes me and lies like a wet blanket over my entire existence. I need tools to deal with my trauma and give my body an honest chance at healing. Most of all, I need support along the way, guidance, help with structure, and knowing where to start.
Looking forward to having you on my journey.